S1 E6 - Dr. Joe Kort

In this interview a truly leading edge conversation with an extaordinary man Dr. Joe Kort - from his website:


… I believe in finding new and constructive means of communication for couples so they can better understand their partners and use their relationships for mutual healing and fulfillment.

Also - there is no shame in erotic orientation. As a heterosexual couple or individual, learn how to have a sex-positive attitude toward your sexual fantasies and minimize any shame you carry about your erotic interests. From the taboo topic of masturbation to more complex subjects such as emotional landscape and attachment, Dr. Joe Kort sheds light in the dark by sharing his more than thirty years experience in sex therapy. The key to happy, healthy sexuality is to not deny ones core erotic orientation.

And - we live in a world that is deeply confused and conflicted about all matters sexual. If we talk about it at all it is often in whispers, “dirty” talk, or from a negative perspective such as sexual abuse, sexual trauma, or negative and incorrect messages we heard during our formative years.


Key points of the episode:

• How he keeps up with the latest in therapy.
• A surprising revelation about sexuality.
• His claim to fame on Tik Tok!
• Surprising solutions to seemingly impossible sexual problems.
• The difference between sexual attraction and trauma urge.
• How there is no such thing as sexual addiction.
• The difference between sexual orientation and erotic orientation.
• New term -"Erotic empathy."
• How we anaesthetize our pain by eroticising it, and how it has nothing to do with sexual attraction.
• New sexual term - not a "top" or "bottom" but a "side"!
• New term - "Outercourse"
• A definition of "kinky" and the difference of a "fetish"
• Why auto-erotic asphyxiation is dangerous.
• How he has kept his 31 year old marriage to his husband fresh.
• The difference between "porn use" and "porn watching" and a new take on porn addiction.
• How his job is "To help you find an answer that is not even on this planet right now!"
• New term "Gaytricarhy"
• How we can be more sexually fluid at times.

Reach out to learn more about this fascinating man on https://joekort.com/

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