How to have Extraordinary Relationships

S2 E11 - SPECIAL EPISODE - Coercive Control

Lucy Cavendish

In this anonymous episode we talk to "Mary" who shares her experience of coercive control. **TRIGGER WARNING**

  • How coercive control is hard to notice until you are out of it.
  • How it tends to happen slowly.
  • How, 30 years ago, the words "Coercive Control" wew not even in our lexicon.
  • The stages of coercive control and how red flags can be innocently and easily missed.
  • How she hated being married and how it started to go wrong in a year.
  • How it lasted over two and a half decades.
  • When the physical violence kicked in and how to the police at the time it was "just a domestic"
  • The divorce process and avoiding manipulation.
  • Her experience of gaslighting.
  • How materially "on paper" she had everything, but was screaming inside.
  • How she has recently- very very recently found her sensible side.
  • The reasons why people stay - the rationale they use to stay.
  • Her new, free life and what she most desires now.


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